打开中外教育史，关爱学生是与教育相伴而生的。著名教育家孔子提出了“仁者爱人”的原则，苏联著名文学家高尔基曾经说过：“爱孩子，连母鸡都会做的事情。”然而教师爱学生是人类最复杂的情感中最高尚情感的结晶。初为人师，面对一张张稚嫩的幼苗我不禁问自己“我能把他们培养成为栋梁之才吗？”“如何了解学生？”“如何关爱学生？”“如何亲近学生？”……这些一连串的问题困扰着我。幸好读书让我由一名师范毕业生成为一名光荣的优秀教师。更让我懂得了如何去爱孩子。

 爱首先需要尊重。 苏霍姆林斯基提出“让每个孩子都能抬起头来走路。”的教育理想，同时教师尊重孩子人格也能得到孩子们的爱戴和尊重，达到《礼记·学记》 中描绘的“亲其师，信其道。”的境界。这个故事让我泪湿双眼——谢谢你，曾经允许我不爱。当刘老师即将结束漂亮的一节语文口语公开课《我爱四季》时，一位男孩安锐举手说：“老师我可不可以不爱秋天和冬天？”教研组长打手势不要理会他，同学们说他是个怪人不爱秋天和冬天也不爱妈妈 。可刘老师却没有为了上节完美的课不让他把话说完 。安锐说：“我爱妈妈，我不爱秋天和冬天。因为妈妈是一位清洁工到了秋天要扫很多落叶，妈妈累得气管炎犯了。冬天半夜要起来扫雪，雪被碾过就要一块一块的砸妈妈的双手都生冻疮，整天流血。我爱妈妈，可我不想爱秋天和冬天。老师，行吗？” 刘老师微微哽咽点点头郑重的举起右手，此时同学们也都举起了右手。十年后，安锐寄来了贺卡里面说：“谢谢你，曾经允许我不爱，这让我在今后的岁月里能够从容地去爱。现在我热爱每一天，因为在我八岁半那年我遇到世上最好的爱。”试问，“这何尝不是世上最好的爱？”第一本教育著作专著《大教育论》的作者夸美纽斯发自肺腑的指出：“从童年培养儿童的公正时起，在对待他们的态度上也应该是公正的。”我以后在教育中也做到了公正平等地对待每个孩子，没有偏爱。因为尊重是爱的前提，尊重是教育的前提。

爱需要理解和宽容。我信奉“严师出高徒”对学生所犯的错误一点也不宽容，也常让我不开心， 而19世纪文学大师雨果曾说过：“世界上最宽阔的是海洋，比海洋更宽阔的是天空，比天空更宽阔的是人的胸怀。”苏霍姆林斯基说：“孩子的过失不管多么的严重，如果不是出于恶意，就不应该责罚他。”。孩子，难免会做些有别于常规的事，而我们的宽容既要保护他的自尊又要指出他的不足。 当渐渐蹲下来看孩子赏识孩子时，发现每个孩子都是可爱的，都有巨大的潜力，正等待老师去发现，去挖掘。让我们“蹲下来和孩子们说话”，“给孩子一个微笑”，“给孩子犯错的机会” 伟大的教育家陶行知曾告诫我们：“你地教鞭下有瓦特，你的冷眼里有牛顿，你地讥笑中有爱迪生。”他让我更加懂得理解和宽容。

爱需要关爱。“有教无类”是大教育家孔子的教育思想，“爱满天下”是伟大的教育家陶行知先生的教育追求。的确，教师的爱像春风一样吹绿每一片树叶，吹遍每一块山林，吹进每一位学生的心田。这让我不禁想到总有些孩子上课不认真听课影响纪律，成绩不及格影响平均分，品行不端正影响他人，行为不规范影响集体名誉。一句话，他们是“后进生”于是为师者埋怨“后进生”。可以理解，现在学校里都搞各种考核，平均分，后30%平均分，及格率。考核排名与奖金，评优，职称直接挂钩，与学校教师前程直接挂钩……试问，谁能比食人间烟火？但一位追求现实得失无法让人体会教育的高尚，反倒让我觉得多么功利，多么自私，多么目光短浅！霍姆林斯基有个精彩色比喻“教师要像对待荷叶上的露珠一样，小心翼翼地保护学生的心灵。晶莹透亮的露珠是美丽可爱的，却又是十分脆弱的，一不小心露珠滚落就会破碎不复存在。”让我不禁想到“后进生”他们最需要老师去爱护。送走一届毕业生你们会发现阔路相遇，大老远跑来说声：“老师好”的都是我们所说的“后进生”，过年过节打电话问候您的还是我们所说的“后进生”。了解了这个情况后我们还会不去关心爱护他们吗？他们的潜力最大，他们更需要我们的偏爱。       

爱需要严而有爱。著名心理学家林崇德先生说：“严在当严处，爱在细微处。”大教育家孔子指出“过犹不及”，《礼记·学记》早就写下这样一段名言“凡学之道，严师为难，师严然后道尊，道尊然后民知敬学。”  毛泽东的老师徐特立教育的艺术是高超的，他对学生要求严而有爱，培养出一批又一批国家栋梁。被毛泽东称为“你是我二十年前的先生，你现在是我的先生，你将来必定是我的先生，” 爱与严本是一回事，爱是严的基础，严是爱的升华。阅读中外教育名著让我在教育教学中学会了严而有爱。                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             

没有爱就没有教育，爱是教育永恒不变的主题，是教育成功的前提，更是教育的动力。当我们用爱的心态去对待孩子每一次过失，用爱的心态去等待孩子的每一次进步时，用爱的目光关注孩子们每一个闪光点，用爱的心情去赞赏孩子的每一分成功时，我们就和孩子们心连心了。当孩子们体会到老师对自己的一片爱心和殷切的期望时，他们会变得如此可爱，他们的潜力是巨大的、无穷的。

阅读——让我驰骋在求识的海洋中，让我的教育教学不断的走向成熟，让我在教育领域成功而踏实地开拓又一片崭新的天地……我坚信用爱去浇灌教育每个孩子都会像幼苗一样茁壮成长。